Gets worse before getting better

We were doing a major renovation last year and a lot of rearrangement in our home this year. 

Both followed the same pattern - initial excitement, then a trying period of effort, doubt, and despair as things got messy, and finally light and joy at the end of the tunnel. 

This is true with many things in life - career transitions, relocations, starting a family, new business, hobby, or health journey. 

Getting to a higher maxima often requires you to climb down from the comfort of your current local maxima. That’s always difficult and uncertain. 

But if you don’t risk it (and endure/enjoy the process), you don’t get the biscuit. 

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