That doesn't make sense

We often get frustrated when "something doesn't make sense" - when your wife is annoyed for a seemingly frivolous reason, when an unqualified president is elected, when your boss decided to pass you up for promotion, when a business makes their customers' life hard etc.

In reality, "when something doesn't make sense", it simply means that we don't understand why it happened and how you could have influenced different outcomes. 

We'll be better equipped in the future and happier if we approach these situations with curiosity and figure out why, rather than get frustrated.

The expectation of "something to make sense" itself assumes you know everything, and that things are always predictable and rational - both of which are mostly false. The world is complex.

Don't pick a fight with reality. When something doesn't agree with your expectations, be curious, deeply understand why, and update your mental models. 

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